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2021 IAMFT Spring Conference - Meet the Speakers

Discernment Counseling for Mixed-Agenda Couples:  When One Says "I'm done" & the Other Says "Let's Try"
Discernment Counseling:  Managing Ethical Dilemmas


Discernment Counseling - Learning Objectives:
  • Be able to identify “mixed-agenda” couples in clinical practice
  • Apply basic tenets of discernment counseling to engage these couples clinically
  • Understand the ethical dilemmas in treating couples with commitment uncertainty/divorce ideation


Steven M. Harris, PhD, LMFT ([email protected]) is Professor and Director of the Couple and Family Therapy Program at the University of Minnesota.  He has been practicing as a marriage and family therapist for over 29 years.  He also serves as the Associate Director of the Minnesota Couples on the Brink Project.  He is involved in a variety of research projects including with the National Divorce Decision-Making Project and in clinical practice with couples on the brink of divorce. He is the author of over 65 peer-reviewed articles and book chapters and the co-author of "Seven Letters That Will Bring You Closer to Your College Student" and "Should I Try to Work it Out?"  Additionally, Steven is the Editor in Chief for the Journal of Marital and Family Therapy.  He currently  lives in the Twin Cities of Minnesota and enjoys the outdoors, college basketball, and Tabasco.


Contact Information:

Steven M. Harris, Ph.D., LMFT, Professor
University of Minnesota
Couple and Family Therapy
Dept. Family Social Science
290 McNeal Hall
St. Paul, MN  55108
(612) 625-3735

Introduction to Collaborative Divorce

Collaborative Divorce - Learning Objectives:
  • Understand the differences between the collaborative divorce process and the traditional adversarial method of litigating a divorce through the court system.
  • Learn the procedural and process aspects of collaborative divorce and how they are designed to support and engage divorcing spouses.
  • Understand the interdisciplinary nature of the collaborative process and the roles of collaboratively trained lawyers, mental health professionals, and financial experts in it.
  • Learn how the collaborative process promotes and supports the resolution of divorce in a civil, non-adversarial, and respectful manner focusing on the parties’ goals and the interests of the family.


Alan Bouwkamp

Alan A. Bouwkamp, J.D. ([email protected]) is a partner in the firm of Becker Bouwkamp Walker, PC in Indianapolis, Indiana and practices in the areas of family law and general litigation issues.  Mr. Bouwkamp received a B.A. Degree in 1984 from Indiana University and his Juris Doctorate degree, cum laude, in 1990 from Indiana University School of Law-Indianapolis.  He has practiced extensively before trial courts throughout Indiana, the Indiana Court of Appeals, and has argued before the Indiana Supreme Court.  Mr. Bouwkamp has lectured extensively on issues such as life after divorce, child custody and shared parenting, child abuse, and general family law.  He has had an AV Preeminent® rating through Martindale-Hubbell® for more than 16 years, is recognized as an Indiana Super Lawyer (2020), and is a Distinguished Fellow of the Indianapolis Bar Foundation.  Mr. Bouwkamp is a member of the Indianapolis, Hamilton County, and Indiana State Bar Associations, a member of Grievance Committee B of the Indianapolis Bar Association, a member of the International Academy of Collaborative Professionals, and the Central Indiana Association of Collaborative Professionals.  He is also a member of both the Indiana Chapter and the National Association of Family and Conciliation Courts.  Mr. Bouwkamp is a member of Collaborative Solutions, Inc., an interdisciplinary Collaborative Law practice group working together to help couples avoid the uncertain outcome of court.

Contact Information:

Alan A. Bouwkamp

Collaborative Law Practitioner

Attorney | Becker Bouwkamp Walker, PC

3755 E. 82nd Street | Suite 220 | Indianapolis, Indiana 46240

Phone (317) 598-4529 | Fax (317) 598-4530

[email protected] |



Tamie Jo Morog, J.D. ([email protected]) graduated from SUNY’s Law School in 1994.  In 1994 she began to mediate for community groups and the USPS.  She has been mediating family law cases for many years.  As a family law attorney, she has represented families in all areas of family law for almost twenty years.  She recently gave up litigation as she believes that Collaborative Law is the best process for families who are involved in the legal system. 



Contact Information:

Tamie Jo Morog, J.D.
Collaborative Law Attorney
Harrison & Moberly, LLP
114a South Meridian Street 
Lebanon, IN 46052


Richard Moss (03-19-21)Richard Moss, CPFA ([email protected]) has been a trusted advocate for his clients providing them with consistent guidance and timely advice on their most important financial matters since April of 2001.  Richard began his career as a Financial Advisor with an international firm, globally recognized for its advisor training program and corporate culture.  While at the firm, Richard received many honors for his socially focused approach to wealth management and financial planning.  After several years of running a successful practice, Richard was recruited by a team of financial entrepreneurs to establish an Indiana based broker dealer and investment firm.  In his role as Retail Sales Manager for the firm, Richard was primarily responsible for establishing the sales culture of the firm as well as strategic business development amongst local and national institutional entities. As a native Hoosier, the chance to become significant within the community, not just a successful member of the community has been a key source of motivation throughout Richard’s career.

In 2014, Richard became certified as a Collaborative Law Financial Specialist.  This unique training allows Richard to assist divorcing couples to effectively manage and resolve the many financial and budgetary issues that may arise during one of the most emotionally difficult moments in their lives.  With years of genuine experience at highly reputable firms exploring the various methods of distributing investment advice, Richard now utilizes his expertise and innate ability to create and maintain authentic relationships as a Partner at Synergy 360 LLC, an MBE Certified Wealth Management and Investment Consulting Firm in downtown Indianapolis.  Richard has been married to his wife, Stefanie, since June of 2006.  Stefanie is a personal injury attorney and owner of Crawford Law Group also located in Indianapolis.  The loving couple have two wonderful little girls, Sydney and Chloe.

Contact Information:

Richard Moss, CPFA
Synergy 360 LLC
9165 Otis Avenue, Suite 243
Indianapolis, IN 46216
317 445 8746


Dr. Mary Sanders, Ph.D., HSPP ([email protected]) has been in private practice since 1981, first in California and, since 1992, in Indianapolis. She earned her A.B. degree at Washington University, St. Louis, and her M.A. and Ph.D. degrees at University of California, Riverside. Dr. Sanders works with persons across the life span, from toddlers to older adults, providing evaluations, therapy, collaborative divorce and other services to families in conflict, and consultations to schools and other organizations. Dr. Sanders has a special interest and experience in the assessment of children, adolescents, and adults with learning challenges, including twice-exceptional gifted learners. Dr. Sanders is currently licensed to practice psychology in California, Indiana, and Michigan. She has been listed the National Register of Health Service Providers in Psychology since 1984. Dr. Sanders is a member of the American Psychological Association, the Association of Family and Conciliation Courts, the International Academy of Collaborative Professionals, the Indiana Association of Family and Conciliation Courts, and the Central Indiana Association of Collaborative Professionals.

Contact Information:

Mary L. Sanders, Ph.D., HSPP

[email protected]

Community Psychological Consultants

11350 North Meridian Street, Suite 300

Carmel, Indiana 46032

(317) 574-1785

(317) 574-1786 (Fax)